Focus on the Family Malaysia

by Dr James Dobson

There was a time when young girls were taught to be reserved, to keep a tight reign on their impulses, especially when it came to the matters of the heart.  They would never have asked a boy for a date or even have made the first telephone call.  But much of that has changed, I believe, for the worse.

The sexual revolution of the past 20 odd years has had a dramatic effect on the way the courtship game is played.  Boys have traditionally been the initiators, and girls were once quite content to be the responders.  But what we’re seeing now is a new sexual aggressiveness among females that has many parents worried.

Some girls are bold sexually and have such a hard-charging approach that males can be intimidated.  Many men are still uncomfortable if not in pursuit.  Even in this day when the old restrictions and taboos for women have fallen away, I believe it’s still appropriate for parents to teach their girls a certain reserve, a certain self-respect when it comes to romantic relationships.  This is especially true during the awkward experiences of early adolescence.

Assure your daughters that they will be more successful and less vulnerable by attracting the object of their affection, rather than to run him down.